Stages of grief over cheating

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Stages of grief over cheating
People generally experience grief through five distinct stages. (Jupiterimages/Photos.com/Getty Images)

Infidelity is a destructive force in relationships. Partners that have been cheated on feel that their love or dedication has been tarnished and betrayed. The stages of grief that a person feels over cheating are the same as the stages of grief over any loss. Psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross outlined the grieving process with five distinct stages. These stages may not occur in a particular order and not everyone experiences all five.

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Denial

This stage is often the first of the five stages you experience when your partner has cheated. People going through denial refuse to believe that their partner was disloyal and that the act ever occurred. Denial is a coping mechanism that softens the mental blow of your partner's infidelity. Being in denial for too long hinders the healing process.

Anger

The anger stage occurs when you realise the severity of your partner's betrayal and you feel the urge to retaliate with hostility. People in this stage may feel furious, frustrated and deeply upset. Any negative repressed feelings about your relationship arise and are expressed. Anger is a normal part of grieving, and it is healthy to show your feelings. However, if you act upon your urges to retaliate, do not do so in a manner that hurts you or physically harms others.

Bargaining

The bargaining stage occurs when you feel that you need to make any compromises to keep the relationship from ending. You feel that you can forgive and tolerate your partner's unacceptable behaviours. People in the bargaining stage downplay any previously bothersome habits or bad behaviour. Exercise caution when in this stage of grief. If you and your partner stay together after you have made actual bargains to keep the relationship alive, you may have to put up with behaviours that you could not stand before.

Depression

Although depression is its own stage in the grieving process, it may occur throughout the entire experience. Your emotions are released and turned inward, making you feel constantly sad and upset. You may feel angry at yourself. People in this stage should try to seek help from understanding friends, family members or professional therapists if their depression does not go away. Depression can become a serious and destructive illness if left untreated.

Acceptance

Acceptance occurs when you fully acknowledge that your partner has cheated on you. You do not necessarily have to forgive your partner or believe that everything is OK at this point. Rather, it means that the emotional burdens that the cheating placed on you have been removed. People who have reached the acceptance stage can better survive their encounters with infidelity and the courses of their relationships after that point.

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