Maybe you have not found the right man yet and are trying to find ways to attract him, or you are already in a relationship and want to ensure your man considers you a "keeper." But what attracts men to some women more than others? While each man's wish list might vary slightly, there seem to be a few female traits to which most men are drawn. You can be the woman every man wants by understanding that his dream woman has much more going for her than looks.
Keep Up Appearances
Men are attracted to a woman's looks first, but this does not mean you have to be a supermodel to stand out in the crowd. Put some extra attention into your grooming habits, dress to suit your shape and stay fit. When you look your best you feel like taking on the world, and men will start to take notice.
Believe In Yourself
Self-confidence is always an attractive quality. In all likelihood, you find yourself attracted to confident men, so it only makes sense that men will not be tripping over themselves to be with you if you are sorely lacking in self-esteem. Go after what you want in life with an unshakeable belief that you can succeed, especially when you are trying to find a man to share your life with.
Nobody wants to be around someone who is always complaining. It is not possible to be in a good mood all the time, but if you try to maintain an upbeat attitude even when the going gets rough, men will want to bask in your positive presence. Constantly finding fault will earn you a reputation as the nagging type, and men will find it easier to head the other direction than deal with your negative energy.
Screw Your Head On Straight
Both men and women want a partner who is emotionally stable. All relationships have issues, but what is important is how you deal with the issues that arise. Avoid unpredictable outbursts and manipulative behaviours, and try to keep jealousy in check. In short, do not be a "drama queen."
Develop Morals & Values
Men want to be with women of character. You do not have to be a perfect angel, but men will more drawn to you if you are compassionate and strive to do the right thing. If you live life as if it is one big party, men might be temporarily intrigued, but they probably will not consider you good girlfriend material.
Know Your Way Around the Kitchen
It may seem like an antiquated idea, but men still think it is important that a woman is capable of cooking and managing a home. Even if the modern man knows how to take care of himself on the domestic front, he still wants a partner who can pull her weight around the house.
Pay Attention to Detail
Men are attracted to women who pay attention to them. A man wants to spend more time around you if you put some energy into figuring out what makes him tick. If you are busy text messaging your girlfriends while he is telling you about his favourite movie, he feels as if he is not a priority, and rightfully so.
It is easy to grab the attention of a man you share interests with, but you should continue to cultivate your own hobbies, too. Do not change your opinions to win a man's affection, either. A man appreciates you for being an individual, even if you do not always agree with him.
Men are not interested in women who cannot carry a conversation. Finish school and take an interest in current events. Men do not expect every woman to have a genius level I.Q., but they do pay more attention to a woman who knows what's going on in the world and has something to say about it.
Bring Home the Bacon
A man might not mind paying for a night on the town, but when it comes to choosing a mate, men are more apt to look for a woman who is capable of earning -- and saving -- her own income. A University of Iowa study concluded that what men want today is dramatically different from what they wanted 80 years ago. Today's man is most attracted by an educated woman with earning power.
- Solotopia: What Men Want In a Woman; Brad Paul
- eRomance: Are You the Woman That Men Are Looking For?
- Men's Health: 9 Ways to Be the Perfect Girlfriend
- Marriage Advice: What Men Look for in a Potential Wife; Neil Chethik
- The University of Iowa News Services: Study Finds Education and Money Attract a Mate