Being ignored by someone can be frustrating and confusing because the reason may be unclear. However, regardless of the reason, handling this situation can be done in a few ways. The effectiveness of how you deal with it will be unknown until you act. If the person is close to you, the situation can be even more hurtful because it may lead to feelings of rejection. In some cases, there may be nothing you can do to change the person's behaviour but accept the fact and move on.
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Confront the person in a nonaggressive way. In some cases, you may only think you are being ignored, when in reality the girl may just be shy or have undeveloped social skills; so, approach her with sensitivity. Talk to her privately and let her know why you would like to have contact with her. Try not to take it personally because there could be things going on in her life that are affecting her behaviour. A conversation may allow her to open up to you.
Write a letter or e-mail to her. Sometimes it's easier for people to avoid getting defensive when they are not confronted directly. In your letter, address your feelings of being ignored and apologise for something you may or may not have done. For example, you can write "I am sorry if I offended you in any way and would like the opportunity to talk to you about it." This is a pre-emptive way to smooth things over in the case you offended her without your knowledge. This will also give her the opportunity to reflect on her own behaviour that she may be unaware of.
Use humour as a way of breaking the ice. In the case that she is ignoring you because she's shy, an attempt at humour might be a good approach. Prepare a nonoffensive joke to tell her and ask her in advance if you can tell her a joke. If she says yes, tell her the joke as a way to open a conversation with her. If she says no, you might have to walk away.
Accept her behaviour. There is a chance that no matter what you do, she will continue to ignore you and, if this is the case, you have to accept it. It can be difficult to deal with, especially if she is important to you in some way. Sometimes you have no other choice but to move on.
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