How to deal with a neurotic person

Updated April 17, 2017

Most people are accused of displaying neurotic behaviour at one time or another. But some people exhibit neurotic disorders that impact normal, everyday life. "Neurotic disorder" is a term used to describe a wide range of circumstances that cause a person to have an inability to adapt to a certain situation or environment. People with neurotic disorders exhibit symptoms such as anxiety, depression, extreme phobias and insecurity. Understanding these neurotic disorders is key to learning how to deal with a neurotic person.

Be tolerant and patient. Remember that the neurotic behaviour is most likely a coping mechanism that the person uses to deal with a much larger issue. Being impatient with a neurotic person will only cause strife and make the situation worse.

Don't be overly critical. In many cases, a neurotic person knows when she is being neurotic but is unable to change her behaviour. Many neurotic people are extremely self-critical already, so you don't need to be.

Give him space. If you find yourself in an argument with a neurotic person, it is futile to argue with him in the heat of the moment. In many cases, the argument stems from a larger issue about which you may know nothing. Wait until he has calmed down before approaching him about the situation. Discuss the issue in a calm tone, using language that is not offensive. For example, avoid calling him names or pointing out his personal flaws that lead to the conflict. Instead, seek to find a compromise that will satisfy both parties.

Encourage her to seek help. Many people with neurotic personalities don't seek help because of embarrassment, pride, fear or the belief that no one will understand or be able to help. This could not be further from the truth. Help exists for those who seek it. Psychotherapy is the form of treatment used to help people overcome neurosis. Therapists encourage patients to discuss the situation that brings on neurotic behaviour. With therapy, she can find the source of her problem and develop strategies to help her cope.

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Based in Los Angeles, Bridgett Michele Lawrence began working as a freelance writer in 2008. She is an accomplished screenwriter, teacher and blogger. Her articles appear on the Sixth Wall and other websites. Lawrence holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts in screenwriting from New York University and a Master of Science in childhood education from Brooklyn College.