Losing your husband is likely the most painful loss you have ever experienced, and no amount of acknowledgement, flower arrangements or casseroles will ease that pain. Your friends and family members naturally want to help you through this time, but many may be unsure of what to say to you. Take the time to thank those who do acknowledge your husband's death, whether it be through a gift or simply through their words.
Write a brief thank-you note to guests who attended your husband's funeral and anyone who sent a gift, card or flowers. Your note should be brief and need not be overly personal or emotional. You can simply say, "Thank you for coming to the funeral. It means a lot to me that you were there." If you want to say more, you can, but remember that even a simple acknowledgement will be thankfully received.
Place a brief comment in your local newspaper, church bulletin or organisation newsletter to publicly thank anyone who sent a gift or attended your husband's funeral. This method is especially useful if you cannot remember everyone who attended and want to avoid accidentally excluding anyone.
Speak to those who have comforted you and thank them for their time and presence at your husband's memorial service. Your thank-you can be brief, but express your complete gratitude. For example, you can say, "Thank you so much for being here for me" or "It means a lot to me that you're here."