During times of tragedy such as the death of a loved one, it would be a warm gesture on your part to send flowers to the grieving family. In addition to the flowers, write a condolence message to relay your feelings to the person or persons in mourning. It is a very difficult time for them, and words of encouragement can brighten their day. A condolence message will remind them that they have people in their lives who love and support them during this difficult transition in life.
Decide what you are going to write and jot down some notes on a scratch sheet of paper before writing the message neatly on the condolence card. Condolence notes should be handwritten.
Begin the condolence message by greeting the person or persons to whom you are sending the flowers. Begin with "Dear" and the person's name or the family name if several people live in the same household, such as a widow and her children. For example, if it is a family, write "Dear Johnson Family," using a comma after the name.
Express your condolence on the first line by stating how sad or hurt you are about the person's passing. For example, "I am so sorry to hear about Carol's passing."
Acknowledge your feelings or a memory about the person who passed away. For example, mention a vacation or an event you both attended.
Let the grieving person know that you are there for them in their time of need and offer your services such as cooking dinner, running an errand or watching the children.
End with how sad you are for the passing of their loved one and that you are there for moral support. For example, "My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time of Carol's passing. I am here for you, and you have my deepest sympathy."
Close with "Love" or "Sincerely," followed by a comma and your signature beneath.