How to Send Japanese Funeral Gifts

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How to Send Japanese Funeral Gifts
Follow gift-giving etiquette at Japanese funerals. (Jupiterimages/ Images)

A Japanese funeral is a formal ceremony with rules and proper etiquette. It is customary to present a monetary offering to the family of the deceased when attending a Japanese funeral. The monetary offering is referred to as a koden. The amount of money given is dependent on your relationship with the person, your social status in the community and your financial ability. You should place the condolence money in a specially prepared enclosure called the koden envelope.

Skill level:
Moderately Easy

Things you need

  • Koden envelope
  • Monetary offering

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  1. 1

    Select a koden envelope. A koden envelope has a thin black and white cord wrapped around it. Purchase a koden envelope at a Japanese stationary store or post office.

  2. 2

    Place the condolence money inside the koden envelope. Write your family name on the front of the envelope. Write the monetary amount on the back.

  3. 3

    Give the koden envelope to the receptionist at the funeral home. Sign the registry book. The receptionist will write down the monetary amount next to your name in the registry book and present it to the family of the deceased following the funeral.

Tips and warnings

  • Always use old, well-worn bills when making a monetary offering. It is inappropriate to give new bills as it suggests the death was expected.

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