How to write a congratulations letter for a wedding shower

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How to write a congratulations letter for a wedding shower
Send the bride-to-be a letter if you can't attend the wedding shower. (Jupiterimages/Polka Dot/Getty Images)

A congratulatory letter shares your joy with the bride-to-be and expresses how excited you are for her new marriage. If you cannot attend your friend's wedding shower, a short letter of congratulations shows her that she is still at the forefront of your thoughts as her special day approaches. You can send a congratulatory letter by itself, or you may want to include a small gift. The most important thing to remember about your letter is to be heartfelt and write with passion. Sending a card that says "Congrats" and includes nothing else but your signature demonstrates a careless approach.

Skill level:


  1. 1

    Write to the bride-to-be as quickly as possible. Avoid waiting until the week before the wedding shower to send your letter. A quick response shows that you are attentive and demonstrates caring.

  2. 2

    Choose a formal stationery, store-bought wedding card or make your own card. Choose something that matches the wedding colours or a design you know the bride will enjoy. If the bride is appreciates comedy, choose a humorous card. If the bride is the serious type, select a modest stationery without too much extravagant decoration.

  3. 3

    Greet the bride-to-be at the beginning of the letter. Use a favourite nickname or, if she prefers, use her given name.

  4. 4

    Congratulate the bride immediately. Don't save your excitement for the end of the letter. Using the term "congratulations" quickly establishes that this is a letter of joy and that you are thrilled for her new marriage.

  5. 5

    Share a special memory of the couple or a memory you cherish of the bride. Keep this part short and lighthearted. For example, remind the bride of a camping trip you took together or of the first time you met her fiancé.

  6. 6

    Close with another round of congratulations and well wishes. Again, remind the bride how happy you are for her and express that you know her wedding day will be fantastic.

  7. 7

    Sign your name.

Tips and warnings

  • Avoid negativity or excuses; don't say anything that may upset the bride-to-be. Your letter should excite her and help her feel appreciated. It should never make her uncomfortable.

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