The time after the death of a loved one can be an emotionally draining period. Thoughts of sadness, loss and depression mingle with those of remembrance, love and joy. Taking the time to write a memorial notification can seem like an unnecessary burden during this difficult time. Once you begin, however, you may find that putting your feelings for the departed into words becomes an uplifting experience, bringing forth cherished memories that often get lost when coping with death. Memorials can be a humorous story, passionate testimonial, a poem or something in between that honours your loved one's passing.
Decide on the tone you want to strike in your memorial before you start writing. Humorous stories can be a great way to celebrate someone's lust for life and love of laughter, but such a story may not be viewed as funny by all members of the family. Reflect on how the departed might describe themselves in such a situation if you become stuck on what tone to set.
Ask family and friends for stories, recollections and pictures of the departed when writing your memorial. Learning how others thought about the departed can give you a better sense of her personality as a whole. You may also find a good story or idea about her that you may have forgotten or overlooked, without asking for input.
Include all pertinent information about the departed's passing, as memorial notices also serve to inform the community. Be sure to mention his last name, where he died, the date it occurred, where he was living at the time of his death and any immediate family members who survive him.
Offer other members of the family an opportunity to read over the memorial before publishing. Besides having another set of eyes check for any mistakes, this gives family members the chance to add something they may feel is important. Better to receive approval of your notice from family members in advance than to worry about hard feelings or misunderstandings after publication.
Determine where you want to publish your memorial. The obituary section of the local paper is the customary place, but some websites offer a similar service. Publishing your memorial online allows family members who live in other cities the ability to view the memorial if they don't have access to local publications.