When a guy is flirting with your girlfriend right in front of your face, your first reaction is probably to get physical--but we all know that fighting doesn't solve anything. If the situation does present itself, be sure to keep your cool and act like an adult. Many people flirt unconsciously or by habit, so try to be as diplomatic about the situation. Reacting like an overjealous boyfriend may make your girlfriend feel uncomfortable.
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Distinguish between being friendly and flirting. If you are a naturally jealous guy, it might be a good idea to take a step back and analyse whether or a not a guy is really flirting with your girlfriend or just maintaining friendly conversation. If he frequently addresses you and includes you in the conversation, he is probably not flirting.
Drop hints to show him that she's your girlfriend. Put your arm around her, hold her hand or refer to the two of you as "we" in conversation. Mention cute or funny anecdotes from your weekends or vacations together. Remind your girlfriend about random errands or things you need to get done together. Indicating that the two of you are in a committed, serious relationship may be enough of a hint for the other guy to back off.
Keep your cool. Don't yell or start a fight with a guy in public because he is hitting on your girlfriend. Chances are, you will end up looking like a jerk and your girlfriend will feel incredibly awkward. Instead, act like an adult and remain calm.
Call him out. When you blatantly see a guy flirting with your girlfriend, actually telling him to stop is the last thing he's expecting you to do. Guys who flirt with your girlfriend in front of your face are counting on the fact that you don't want to make an uncomfortable scene. Look him in the eye and say, "Would you mind not hitting on my girlfriend?" or whatever works for you.
Pull your girlfriend aside and explain what's bothering you. If the flirting continues, it's probably because your girlfriend is participating on some level, even if it's unconscious. Ask to speak to her for a moment and tell her that the fact that she is allowing a guy to flirt with her bothers you. If it's something that continues or happens on a regular basis, you may need to have a more serious discussion about your relationship.
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