How to Word Wedding Invitations and RSVP Cards

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Choosing the wording for your wedding invitations and RSVPs can be tricky. You don't want to offend anyone. You want to sound elegant but not over the top. And you do not want to have grammar or spelling errors. Brides and grooms should work together to get the wording right.

Skill level:
Moderately Easy


    Wording the invitations

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    Consider the type of wedding you are planning. The invitations, including wording, should reflect whether the event is formal or casual.

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    Put whoever is paying for the wedding at the top of the invitation.

    If it is the bride's parents, traditional wording might be: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith invite you to share in the wedding celebration of their daughter, Jane Smith to Jack Johnson, son of Mr. and Mrs. Jeff Johnson.

    If the couple is paying for the wedding, consider: Jane Smith and Jack Johnson invite you to share and celebrate their wedding.

    Try this wording if the couple will share wedding costs with their parents: Jane Smith and Jack Johnson, together with their parents, invite you to share and celebrate their wedding.

    Modern wording might drop the courtesy titles: John and Sue Smith invite you to share in the wedding celebration of their daughter, Jane Smith to Jack Johnson, son of Jeff and Carol Johnson.

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    Follow introductions with the wedding date, time and place. Traditional wording would spell out the date rather than using numerals, but modern weddings don't have to follow these rules.

    Traditional: Four o'clock in the afternoon Saturday, the twenty-first of June, Two thousand and nine St. Mary's Catholic Church Four hundred and fifty nine North First Avenue Saint Louis, Missouri

    Modern: 4 p.m. June 21, 2009 St. Mary's Catholic Church 459 N. 1st Ave. St. Louis, MO

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    Include a line about the reception, unless you plan to use a separate reception card: Reception immediately following the ceremony at The Plaza Hotel (include address).

    Some receptions are held at the same place as the ceremony. In that case, you can write: Please join us for a reception beginning at 6 p.m.

    Wording the RSVP card

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    Leave spaces for each invitee to write his name and the name of his guest, and to check off whether they will be attending.

    The wording might be: The favour of your reply is requested by (include a date here that works with your wedding plans). M ____ Accepts _ Regrets__

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    Be creative, and instead of using the traditional "will" or "will not attend" wording, you can use: Yes, looking forward to seeing the happy couple. For regrets you could say: No, but we will be thinking of you.

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    Include a deadline date for returning the RSVP.

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    If you have a menu choice at your reception, include a spot where invited guests can mark their choice on the RSVP or on a separate card.

Tips and warnings

  • Go to for other examples of RSVP style and format.

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