How to know if a man fancies you

Updated February 21, 2017

Knowing whether a man fancies you and is desirous of a romantic relationship can sometimes be difficult. A man may play "hard to get" and think that by acting disinterested, you will be more attracted to him. Initiating a new relationship means correctly reading the cues he gives you and interpreting their true meaning.

Read his body language. A man who fancies you will look at you when you are unaware and smile at you during conversation. An increase in blinking and him turning his body toward you when you are sitting together are indicators of attraction. Uncrossed arms and frequent touching when talking are additional cues that he's interested in you.

Monitor his style. A man who is trying to get your attention will often change or update his look and dress more fashionably when seeing you. He may also wear more cologne.

Answer his questions. A man who is interested in you will want to learn all he can about you. If he continues asking questions about your career, home and family, these are indicators that he fancies you.

Answer his calls. A man who is interested in you will call each day or many times during a day, and he will go out of his way to be available to see you and spend time with you. If he text messages you, that can also be an indicator, but phone calls are more personal and really show that he is making an effort.

Know whether he is available or not. A man who is married or dating someone else may just see you as a friend or as an additional romantic interest. If a man fancies you and wants a relationship with you, he will make it known that he is single and available.

Accept small gifts and cute notes. A man who fancies you will take notice of your favourite things and try to surprise you with your favourite coffee in the morning, cute greeting cards or other little treats.


If you are still unsure, read a book such as "He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo.


Don't waste your time on a man who ignores you and puts hanging with his friends ahead of spending time with you. He is most likely not that interested in you.

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