How to Avoid a Kiss at the End of a Date

Written by kay ireland
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At the end of a less than perfect date with a less than perfect beau, you might not be jumping at the chance to kiss him. He, on the other hand, might be slicking on Chapstick and getting ready for the perfect post-date pucker. Skip the pity kiss and avoid a kiss at the end of the date altogether. Chances are, you won't be going out with him again, so let him down easy without leading him on by placing him firmly in friend territory. You can avoid the kiss with some well placed space and quick manoeuvres.

Skill level:
Moderately Easy


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    Put some space between you and your date. At the end of the date, if she is walking you to your door, or you're standing on the porch, put at least an arm's length of space between your bodies so that the space prevents her from getting too close. If she keeps stepping to get closer, politely step away further so she gets the hint.

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    Avoid long eye contact at the end of the date. Some men think that the best time to go in for a kiss is when you're looking into each other's eyes. Bring his attention elsewhere so that you aren't looking at each other. Point to a person walking a dog, comment on the weather or some other boring point. Don't direct his attention to the moon or the stars, which can be construed as romantic and cue to kiss.

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    Try not to linger at the front door or in front of the restaurant before you leave. Be direct and forward, say that you had a good time and it was nice to meet her. Lingering because you feel awkward and don't know what to say may make her think that you are just killing time before you kiss. Leaving quickly sends a very direct message.

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    Offer a friendly hug in lieu of a kiss. When he goes in for the end of the date kiss, extend your arms instead and embrace him. In the hug position, your heads are side by side and not in a good position for a kiss. After the hug, promptly leave so that the hug can't turn into more.

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    Turn the other cheek. If she seems bent on giving a goodnight kiss and you can't find a way out of it, wait until she leans in for the kiss and turn it into a European style greeting. Turn your cheek slightly and kiss her cheek, and then kiss her other cheek in the same way. She'll most likely think it was just a more modern way of saying goodbye, and her feelings won't be as hurt as if you refuse her outright.

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