Dealing with a stalker can be a devastating and dangerous experience. Not just inconvenient, a stalker can pose a threat to not only your privacy, but also your physical safety and that of your family and friends. Once you have gone through the legal routes to rid yourself of your stalker by making police reports and filing restraining orders, take your safety into your own hands by making yourself hard to find.
- Skill level:
- Moderately Challenging
Things you need
- Change of phone number forms
- Change of address forms
- Post office box
- Photos of your stalker
- New social security number
- New hair colour and style
- Trained dog
Change your home phone number. Call the phone company and tell them about your stalking issue and they might change your phone number for free and sign you up for an unpublished phone number at a small monthly cost. You can also put a block on your stalker's phone number on your new phone just to ensure there's no contact.
Change your cell phone number as well. Although this is inconvenient, you must remove the ability for your stalker to reach you. Contact your cell phone company and request a new phone number. Share your new number with only close friends and your employer with a note not to release the phone number.
Change your e-mail and user IDs. Email and social-networking sites like Facebook and MySpace offer stalkers even more ways to find you, so wipe your track clean online as well. Use an anonymous e-mail and user name that does not relate to your real name in any way. Remove any social-networking site profiles or create one with a false name to keep in touch with close friends. Do not post your photo on any online profiles.
Move and do not leave a forwarding address with either your landlord or the post office. Moving and keeping that new address a secret is vital in hiding from your stalker. If possible, move out of the immediate area your stalker is residing in and move to a new town or preferably a new state. Have friends help you move and do not go directly to the new dwelling, thereby throwing off a stalker who is following your moving truck. If you are moving within the same town, plan on parking your moving truck for the weekend and moving in the middle of the night to the new location.
Use a post office box instead of a home address for bills and correspondence. Provide your employer and landlord with your P.O. box number and have neither mail nor magazines delivered to your home in your name.
Tell your employer and apartment-complex leasing agents not to give your information to anyone. Supply them with a photo of the stalker. They will be more than happy to help you remain safe, and letting them know of your problem means more eyes are looking out for you.
Change your social security number with the Social Security Administration. A trip to the Social Security office gets you a new social security number under these extreme conditions, and allows you to break your paper trail even further.
Change your routines. If you can't move, be sure to change your routines, including your arrival and departure times from home and work as well as the times you walk your dog, pick up your kids and do your grocery shopping. The more spontaneous and unpredictable you are, the more successful you will be in hiding from your stalker.
Change your look. Change your hair length and colour as well as your usual clothing style to further camouflage yourself when going out to run errands and socialise. If you have a close friend with whom you spend a lot of time, ask her to change up her look as well so the stalker doesn't find your through following her.
Get a big dog. A dog does more to dissuade a stalker than nearly anything else and a well-trained dog can be a good companion and make you feel safe at night.
Tips and warnings
- If your stalker is dangerous, get a license to carry a weapon and learn how to use it or take a martial arts course. Restraining orders are a good first step, but knowing how to protect yourself gives you the extra edge.
- Don't hang out at places your stalker knows you frequent. New places and new faces mean you are hidden without being stuck in your house.
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