How to word wedding thank you cards

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Wording wedding thank you letters is an art of courtesy, uniqueness and succinctness. Finding the right words for those mandatory wedding cards can be tricky, especially if the gift is particularly generic. Nonetheless, thanking a distant relative for those highly unattractive pot holders is possible with enough personal touches and detail. Additionally, authors Gabrielle Goodwin and David Macfarlane explain that thank you letters are an endangered art form; the letters you write will instil gratitude and forge a small connection between you and the recipient.

Skill level:
Moderately Easy


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    Type the message first. Sit next to a computer while writing the thank you cards to type the message first.Typing the message in a basic Word program will eliminate spelling and grammar errors. Read the message aloud to ensure it flows smoothly. Double check the spelling of the name, too. Few guests will see the note as genuine if the first thing they notice is their name spelt incorrectly.

    Only use a computer for drafts. explains that all thank you cards should be handwritten.

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    Keep the letter brief but polite. Thank you notes are usually quite short, averaging three sentences. The first sentence should be a personal detail, like expressing your happiness that they could attend the wedding. Then express thanks in the form of, "Thank you so much for the (insert object here)."

    Consider including a "thank you" based regards, like "with sincerity and gratitude" or, "sincere thanks from..."

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    Explain how the gift will be used. After thanking them for the gift, mention how you and your new spouse will benefit from the item. For example, "the blender will make some amazing breakfast smoothies in the years to come. When you come to visit, I'll make you one from my favourite recipe."

    If the gift is money, explain how you will put the money toward an exotic honeymoon or as a down payment for a car or home. Book author Rosalie Maggio states to never express the dollar amount of the gift, only how it will be used.

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    Add a touch of personality. Do not use a stock format for your thank you cards. Include a sentence which is specific to them, like, "PS: the dress you wore at the wedding was so lovely!" or, "Give Frankie and Fido my love."

    If the wedding was small, consider enclosing a picture of the wedding. Find a picture of you with the intended recipient of the letter, or just enclose a picture of you and your spouse at the ceremony. For a humorous picture idea, take pictures of you with a big "thumbs up" holding the gift.

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    Offer follow-up details. If you are close with the guest, end the note expressing a desire to keep in touch and the hopes that the guest will visit you soon. Express your excitement at writing from a new address if you moved into a new home.

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    Sign the letter for both of you. Even if you wrote the letter, sign it from both you and your spouse. You two are now a team, and this should be reflected. Consider getting your spouse to sign the letter in his handwriting for an added touch of personality.

Tips and warnings

  • To avoid feeling overwhelmed and to maximise creativity, do not write all the thank you cards in one sitting. Break up the work into manageable amounts between you and your spouse. Write no more than 10 letters a day.

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