Most parents want to help their children be happy and self-confident. As a parent who is striving to raise self-confident children, it is important to help children understand their strengths and weakness. Then a parent can help build on the strengths and improve the weaknesses. How a child feels has a direct impact on how a child behaves.
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Realise that any personal problems you have will affect your parenting style and ability. If you have issues in your past that are continuing to bother you, do what you can to resolve them. Seek professional help if necessary.
Play with your child. When you prioritise your child you are telling her that she is important to you. When a child feels valued and important, her behaviour will naturally improve.
Praise your child for successes and accomplishments. Look for opportunities to draw attention to good deeds. Take opportunities to say thank you to your child when he does something nice.
Notice when your child makes efforts to succeed. Positive reinforcement of efforts will encourage her to continue to strive for successes.
Pay attention to your child when she talks to you. Make eye contact to show her that you are listening. This tells her that you value her and what she thinks. Lay this groundwork while your child is young so that as she grows older she will continue to know that you are interested in how she feels and what she thinks.
Address your child by his name when you are communicating with him. When people hear their name spoken, it communicates interest, concern and love.
Notice any special talents your child may possess and encourage the development of these abilities. Encourage your child to improve skills and continue to improve. Be aware of maintaining an appropriate balance between protecting your child from failure and pushing your child too hard.
Watch school influences carefully. Be involved in your child's school life so that you are aware of any negative situations (such as bullying or aggressiveness). A child with strong self confidence will know that being bullied is not acceptable. However if a child is not as confident, he may allow himself to become a victim.
Give your child household responsibilities. Requiring children to help maintain a family home is very effective at building self-confidence. Household duties help a child feel useful and valuable.
Show your children how to express negative feelings appropriately without becoming abusive or out of control. Children need to be taught how to express feelings that are uncomfortable and should not be encouraged to bottle up these feelings. However, children also need to know how to appropriately express feelings of anger or hurt without losing control or hurting others or property.