How to know if your ex still loves you

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How to know if your ex still loves you
Read the signs your ex may be sending you. (Jupiterimages/Comstock/Getty Images)

After a break-up, it is common to think about your lost love, even if you do not wish to rekindle the flame. According to research gathered and published by Dr. Nancy Kalish of California State University, lost romances that are rekindled can be very successful. Listen and watch for clues from your ex to see if a rekindled relationship is in your future.

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    Notice whether or not your ex is attempting to maintain contact with you. Check your voice mail and social networking sites to see if there have been attempts to reach you. According to H. L. Archer, author of the popular relationship blog Love, Romance, Dating, if your ex is putting effort into communicating with you, it is likely that he or she is still thinking of you and wants to rekindle communication.

    How to know if your ex still loves you
    Voice mail messages is one method many use to reach out to an ex. (Goodshoot/Goodshoot/Getty Images)
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    Listen to the topics your ex brings up. Messages and conversations about reminiscent topics indicate your ex is still reliving the positive experiences from the former relationship. Converse about positive experiences and shift the focus to happier times.

    How to know if your ex still loves you
    Focusing on positive past experiences indiccates a potential flame rekindling. (BananaStock/BananaStock/Getty Images)
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    Observe the behaviours of your ex. Celebrating a birthday with an extravagant gift or sending a bouquet of roses on Valentine's Day is not necessarily an indicator of true love between people. According to author and psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D., watch for the small, everyday indicators that you are still valued by your ex. Offering you the last brownie in the pan or choosing to watch a movie from your favourite genre indicates your ex puts your needs before his or her own.

    How to know if your ex still loves you
    While flowers are beautiful to receive, watch for unpremeditated actions to gauge emotions. (Brand X Pictures/Brand X Pictures/Getty Images)

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