How to Enjoy Being Single Over 40

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How to Enjoy Being Single Over 40
It can be fun to be single after 40. (smiling female (fifty years old) image by Monika 3 Steps Ahead from Fotolia.com)

While rules are different for men than women--and yes, that may sound sexist, but it's true--enjoying life in general after 40 can be an art. That means taking vacations you've always dreamed of, getting out of relationships that no longer work, learning a new language, trying a new career and even finding your soul mate where and when you least expect it. Women usually get asked out less after age 40, but that is not necessarily a bad thing: for once in our lives we are taken seriously as career women and the men who do strike our fancy are generally more real than the dogs hounding us at 29.

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Instructions

  1. 1

    Make peace with yourself. That's the first step for any single adult. Dating sites are filled with lonely hearts desperate to make a connection. People who are comfortable in their own skins still post profiles and search for love, but they've already made the deepest connection: with themselves. Make peace by listing your goals in life and gradually start checking them off. Be aware that your love for your family and close friends is at the top of list and ensure that you maintain good relationships while also taking care of yourself.

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    Look your best. Take a gander at Cheryl Ladd, Christie Brinkley or Tony Danza--all over 50 and all incredibly good looking. True, they are celebrities, but why not emulate them? Danza goes roller blading (so can you) and Christie Brinkley dumped her no-good-cheating-louse-of-a-husband (so can you). Get to a gym at least four days or nights a week. If you can't do that, walk an hour a day, preferably after dinner. Eat right. Talk to a dietitian if you need help with this. One great tip: write all your meals down for a few weeks until the pounds start to melt away.

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    Do the things you didn't have time for when you were younger. Maybe you had a child at 20 and now he's in college. You always wanted to go to college yourself, and now you'll feel like 20 again the minute you fill out that application to Brown. Maybe you want to go to grad school, become a cosmetologist, try community theatre, go to Rome, take your best friend on a cruise or adopt a baby from China. Do it. All of these choices will rejuvenate you and give new meaning to your life.

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    Date outside your age range and comfort zone. This may sound counterintuitive since generally, women over 40 have a rougher go of it, but some sweet romances with young men or women can be memorable. When you were 20 or even 30, you couldn't date someone much younger--that would have been illegal. Why not go out with that younger man who is so impressed with your latest book or the friend of your 21-year-old daughter, the one who is also learning Japanese? Just don't expect these romances to last. If you like older men or women, do that.

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    Get out of debt. Now. The less debt you have hanging over your head the freer you'll feel to pursue the things that count: romance, travel, family, friends, your pet rabbit. In addition, make sure your financial house is in order. If you don't have a job, get one. If you are self-employed, step it up. If you don't have a savings or retirement account, the time is now.

Tips and warnings

  • Women: as you age, you'll have a rougher go of it finding dates, generally. You must work even harder on your face, figure and most importantly, confidence level and personality. That said, refuse to compromise and only date men you know are worthy of you.
  • Men: as you age, you're not the stud muffin you once were, but now you've mellowed, and we women find that attractive. Use those great listening skills and years of experience to warm one woman's heart, not the whole cheerleading squad's.

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