Whether you are a teenager or an adult looking for the right man, getting that guy's attention can be a mystery. Let's face it; men just think differently than women. There is no magic potion that will make them fall in love or in "like" with you. But, if you follow the right steps, you have a much better chance of winning over that guy you think is so special.
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Be yourself. One of the worst mistakes all of us tend to make in situations like this is to pretend to be someone we are not. Remember--no one can be you better than you can. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Wear what feels and looks good on you. Talk the way you want to talk. This will give you confidence, which is always attractive.
Do not try too hard. People who come on strong seem desperate, and that is a big turn off. A woman who throws herself at a man may get his attention temporarily, but it won't last. Remember, men have a very primal instinct. They do enjoy the "chase." Even the ones who seem timid and insecure still would prefer the opportunity to pursue and capture the girl.
Smile and look him in the eye. Be sure it is a real smile, not a deliberate flirtatious action that can be very transparent. If you really do like him, a natural twinkle in your eye will come through, and he will feel that. Stay away from the tossing of the hair and the sexy walks. Men are onto that.
Try to get close to him in some way. Whether it's a party, or at the office, or some other social situation, it is important to find the time to just have a conversation. When you get to this point, be sure to ask questions about him, and be a good listener. People in general like to talk about themselves. Just be sure to avoid getting too personal in these initial conversations. Your goal is to let him talk, so you can make him comfortable, and find out a little more about him.
Learn to casually mimic his body language. Experts in all types of relationships, business and personal, say this is a very big key when it comes to communication. It opens the door. If he is sitting with his hands folded facing you, then you do the same. When he takes a sip of his drink, maybe take a sip of yours. You don't want to look like a puppet. But if you do this in a relaxed way, he is much more likely to feel comfortable opening up to you. It is simple psychology that works in many different situations. If you watch couples that are really in love with each other, you will see that they naturally do this without even thinking.
Tips and warnings
- Have some patience with this. Everyone is different, and some guys take a little longer to "get the message."
- This is not an exact science. So if it does not work out the first time you try it, have faith in the fact that the next guy you fancy might even be a better match for you.