Weddings are an incredibly stressful time since you have to worry about the feelings and sensibilities of every person in your family. Having a wedding that excludes children can be especially worrisome because you run the risk of upsetting your family members with small children. While there is no way to guarantee that every family member will not get upset with you if you will not allow children at your wedding, there are steps you can take to explain this information in a polite and acceptable form.
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- Wedding invitation
Write the events at the wedding that will not be children friendly before writing out the no children policy. For example, you can write, "Because alcohol will be served and the wedding reception will run late into the night..." This will demonstrate that you are thinking about the best interest of the children and the enjoyment of your adult guests.
Write that the equipment and furniture at the wedding are expensive and that you will not be responsible for anything the children may damage.
Check with the reception site to see if they offer day care services for children. If you are willing to have this as an option, your guests can bring their children but not let them be a part of the reception. You can write this information in the invitation if you find this as an acceptable alternative.
Make it explicitly clear that this is an adult-only wedding at some point in the invitation. If you are too passive in your message then you run the risk of guests bringing their children because they did not understand the invitation.
Never write "children are excluded." This is too negative of a statement. A better way to write this is to say, "this is an adult event."
Tips and warnings
- Your best option when you are writing an invitation that excludes children is to be as short as possible. It is almost guaranteed that your family members with children will contact you to either verify or complain about the rule. At this point, you can enumerate all the reasons for not allowing children, such as adult language being used, uncensored lyrics in the music, expensive dinners and alcohol being served.
- Be polite at all times. You want your family members to know that excluding children has nothing to do with not wanting them there (even though this may be true), but for safety reasons and for increasing the overall enjoyment of the adults that will be there.
- This is not a guarantee that your family members will not be frustrated or angry with you if you exclude children from your wedding. If you exclude children, you will more than likely make one or more of your relatives angry.
- If you are not polite about this circumstance, the plan will be more likely to fail.
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