If you are in a relationship, whether with a family member, friend or lover, you need to learn to show that person how much you love them. The people in your life are not just going to know this about you. If you do not show them how much you love them, then they will become insecure about your relationship and, in some cases, leave.
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Understand the necessity of showing your love to someone. Some people assume that if they love another person, the other person is simply going to know this. That is not the case. Your loved ones need to be told and shown that you love them to know for certain that you really do.
Tell your loved ones that you love them often. So many people regret when their loved ones pass away and they cannot remember hearing or saying the words, "I love you," in recent years. Prevent this deep regret from happening in your relationships by specifically saying, "I love you," to the people you love.
Spend time with the people you love. Many people claim to love their friends, spouses or children but do not carve out time to spend with them. If you do not spend time with someone, you are communicating that they are not important to you. Loving someone means investing time in them.
Make your loved ones a priority in your life. If you love someone, then you will not shove that person to the bottom of your priority list. You will not cancel plans at the last minute to accommodate other priorities in your life or, worse, refuse to make plans because other parts of your life are always more important.
Invest in what someone you love cares about. For example, even if you have never had any interest in construction equipment, a parent who loves her son will take the time to learn about construction equipment because the child cares about it. If you want to show people how much you love them, then value what they value.
Make yourself vulnerable to the people you love. Part of loving another person involves opening up your heart and revealing who you really are. To show someone that you love him, you must be honest and open about who you are.
Accept your loved ones as they are. When you love someone, you do not try to change her. Instead, appreciate her for the unique and precious person she is.
Make sacrifices. Showing someone that you love him often comes with sacrifice. The needs of the person you love are more important than your wants. For example, a child's need to play outside with you overrides your desire to take a nap. In some cases, making painful decisions that are in the best interest of the one you love is the best way to show your love for him.
Commit to the people you love. Even when you do not feel loving toward someone, choose to stay invested. The feelings of love might ebb and flow, but your commitment is the glue that holds the relationship together and shows how much you love someone.
Tips and warnings
- It is impossible to be perfect all the time, but it is important to try to be consistent in showing others you love them.
- There are times when people in relationships and families don't feel like being loving toward one another. Talk through these times and get past them.