How to Spot a Philanderer

Written by sam grover
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How to Spot a Philanderer
A philandering husband can make you feel bad about yourself. (Jupiterimages/ Images)

There is no hard-and-fast way to tell whether your husband is cheating on you, but there are a number of signs that can indicate that there may be a problem. While none of these signs is 100 per cent accurate, if you see a collection of them in a short period of time you may want to ask your husband to explain them. This is not something to be taken lightly, so make sure you talk to your husband rather than just assume that he is philandering.

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    Look for changes in hisl appearance. Philanderers will often start taking more pride in how they look, adjusting their hair more specifically, coordinating their outfits and going to the gym. Of course, this doesn't absolutely mean he's cheating, as he could have just decided to change how he looks.

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    Look to see if he is spending more time out of the house. Excuses include more overtime and work-related things or a new hobby. Again, this isn't necessarily an absolute sign that you are married to a philanderer. He may be legitimately working harder or actually pursuing his new hobby.

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    Assess how attached he is to his cell phone. A philanderer will usually have his cell phone in his pocket or near him at all times. He has to have it close at hand in case his girlfriend calls so that someone else doesn't answer.

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    Adjust your schedule to be less predictable. Come home for lunch, come back home a couple minutes or so after having just left to run errands and generally make it so that there are fewer times when he can guarantee you aren't around. This creates a situation where you are more likely to catch him if he is philandering.

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    Ask him. Only do this if you have a large amount of evidence to suggest he is philandering. Otherwise, you may alienate him if you are wrong, which will create new problems in your marriage.

Tips and warnings

  • You should think about what other problems are in your marriage that are causing you to be suspicious or that may be causing him to cheat.

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