Even the most attentive parent needs a break occasionally. The first time Karen Gier left her four-month old with a babysitter, she had feelings of guilt and apprehension, even though her babysitter was a trusted friend and experienced caregiver.
"Leaving my baby with a sitter was harder on me than it was on her." While it's normal to have a sense of guilt upon taking your personal time back, experts insist that time away from the duties of motherhood is actually good for you, and that you may find yourself refreshed and ready to shoulder your responsibilities with renewed energy after an evening to yourself, with a partner or with friends.
Leaving my baby with a sitter was harder on me than it was on her.
Karen Gier, paraprofessional and mum
Choose a reliable babysitter
You want your baby to have the best of care, even when you're not at home. Your babysitter should be trustworthy, mature and able to follow your directions. Finding a reliable sitter doesn't have to be difficult; you can rely on your social or work connections for recommendations, or you can ask a trusted relative, such as baby's adoring grandparents.
Reliable babysitters should come with a list of references and plenty of experience with children. You might consider whether or not your sitter is certified in lifesaving techniques. You might also prefer to familiarise your little one with your babysitter by inviting her over before your big night out for a "practice run." This will allow your baby and his babysitter to get better acquainted, and allow you to watch your sitter's interactions with your baby.
When you're a mum, you're prepared for everything, and your night out is no exception. Although you're used to doing everything on your own, your baby's caretaker will need all the information you're used to handling by yourself. If you're nervous about forgetting something, write it down in advance to ensure that you've remembered all the important details.
Be certain to provide your babysitter with specifics concerning your baby's disposition, his preferences and schedule. When meals come on time and his bedtime routine is as normal as possible, your baby will be less likely to fuss. You can set your baby and his sitter up for success by ensuring that your little one has been fed and his nappy is clean before you leave. To ensure that your baby has fun when you are out on the town, provide him with a new book or toy that will keep him busy while you are gone.
Go and have fun
In case of emergency
When taking leave of your baby for the evening, be certain to provide his caretaker a list of emergency numbers. The babysitter will need information such as the phone number and address where you can be reached, an emergency phone list with the numbers of close friends or relatives if you can't be reached, and the number of the baby's doctor. You can also remind him or her to call 111 to speak to the free NHS non-emergency service for issues like minor potential poisonings and -- of course -- 999 for anything serious. Make sure to show your babysitter where any smoke detectors and emergency exits are located. If you have a first aid kit, show your babysitter where it is located. If your baby has allergies, inform your babysitter in advance.
Tips and warnings
- Your time away from your baby will be less stressful for both of you if he is kept at home. Keep your goodbye short and sweet to decrease your baby's anxiety. Try to enjoy your time away and don't feel guilty for needing it.