What Does it Mean When a Guy Winks at You?

Body language, including facial expression, is one way you can tell things about a person that he might not even know. Then again, maybe he does.

He's a Comedian

Some people wink after making a joke or sarcastic remark (or if somebody else makes one). If a guy winks at you, he's making the extra effort to establish a personal understanding ("YOU get me, right?"). In this scenario, he is just trying to be friendly. It's who he is.

He Likes You

Read the rest of his body language or actions. Did he just offer you a drink? Many guys don't want to come off as overbearing in a social situation. Making general eye contact is a good subtle indicator that he has at least some interest in you. If he puts a hand on your shoulder while telling a joke, winks and walks away, he probably has romantic inclinations toward you.

Or Maybe It Was Nothing

There's always the possibility it was just dust in his eye. Some people also develop nervous tics in social situations. Keep watching him; a nervous guy might want you to make the first move.

Cultural Connotations

In Latin American countries, winking is almost assuredly a romantic signal. Throughout Asia, though, it is widely considered rude.

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About the Author

Dan Bradley has been writing in various forms since 2002. He has published blogs at Chicago Now, satire at The Heckler, written poetry and shorts and even composed grants for Goodwill. Bradley was awarded a Caterpillar fellowship in 2002. He graduated with a Master of Arts in English from Bradley University (no relation).